From 1952, Our Archive
Below are some of our previously monthly meetings and activities to give you a flavour of what we do at our Oxford Soroptimists Club.
15th May 2013
Speaker: Suzanne Holbrook
Suzanne is the Vice President (Women) for the Oxford University Student Union. She gave a most interesting and challenging talk on projects aiming to change the attitudes and behaviours of students around sexual consent in order to create a culture of healthy sexual communication and eliminate violence against women and girls.
Suzanne appealed for funding and circulated leaflets and her funding proposal to all present.
Suzanne’s talk gave rise to many questions and enthusiasm to help her projects. Pam suggested we forward any further questions to Suzanne and discuss how to move a possible project forward at at future meeting.
Speaker: Barbara Beach
Barbara talked about her family’s years of fostering a number of children and astonished and amused us with her many anecdotes. It is clear that several children benefited greatly from the care they received. We also got to know much more about Barbara’s non SI life which was especially fascinating.
Speaker: Jenny Vince
Jenny talked about the future of SIGBI and began by asking us to note down why we joined and what we expect of the organisation in the future. Membership is ageing and declining so it is essential to take action. Jenny will feed back our comments together with those from other groups to whom the presentation will be given.
‘Associate membership’ and’ light touch clubs’ are being trialled to see if possible members might be attracted in the first instance by a less structured approach. We discussed why SI seems to have a low profile when we have UN representation.
Update on Guiding in Oxfordshire
Speaker: Andrea Oughton, Country Commissioner Girlguiding Oxfordshire
Andrea gave an illustrated and enlightening talk on Guiding as it is today. She first demonstrated the close links between the aims of Guiding and those of Soroptimism, demonstrating the logic of the increasingly close connection between the two organisations.
The new Guiding motto is “We discover, we grow” and no longer, “Girls in the lead”. She went on to explain that Guiding is the largest voluntary organisation in the UK with 80,000 adult volunteers and 500,000 girls involved. One in four eight year olds in the UK is a Brownie. To put this in perspective, the membership would fill Wembley Stadium more than six times and it would need 9,000 double-decker buses to transport members there.
Guiding provides an important Girls only space which all girls can join regardless of class, race, religion or handicap. The Organisation is seeking to shed its white, middle class image and many aspects, including the format of the Promise, are being reviewed to take account of the variety of members involved now. Girls in 144 countries take part. The age ranges covered are: Rainbows 5-7 (4-7 in Northern Ireland where they were first piloted), Brownies 7 – 10; Guides 10 – 14 and Senior Section 14 – 25. Guiding is no longer a “Uniformed Organisation”. Members at all levels choose from a variety of approved clothing and are involved in choosing their group activities. There is a strong emphasis on fun as well as encouraging girls to learn skills and to develop a high level of self-esteem. All levels of Guiding still take badges but these are often very different from those that members of SIOD would have experienced when young.
Research has shown that two thirds of award winning women had been involved in Guiding which reflects the success of the Organisation.
SILC Regional Speaker
Speaker: Joanne Swift
Joanne Swift spoke briefly of her personal background, her job as a lawyer in the local government sector and being a Soroptimist since 2001.
She has taken on several officer roles, often doubling them, and has recently taken over from Yinka Soetan as Regional President. Her informal theme for the year is ‘Awareness, Advocacy and Action’, in particular raising awareness of the inappropriate incarceration of women, and the movement ‘Taxis against Trafficking’.
The larger part of her talk concentrated on the future of Soroptimism and the challenges facing the organisation, with membership numbers falling by 3% each year. She remains convinced that the most effective way of increasing membership is through personal contact. Two pilot projects are being considered to ease the membership problem: Associate Membership and a virtual club or ‘Light Touch Club’ to be discussed at the next Regional Meeting. Her own club in Aylesbury has only 15 members, but they nevertheless feel they do make a difference.
Speaker: Dr Malcolm Benson
Dr Benson trained in London Hospital around the same area and time as the recently televised period drama, ‘Call the Midwife’. He also studied philosophy at the Open University, most useful in his subsequent involvement in medical ethics.
He gave a brief overview of the common framework used in the analysis of medical ethics, the four-principle approach postulated by Tom Beauchamp and James Childress: Beneficience (acting in the best interests of the patient), Non-malficience (doing no harm), Autonomy (respect for the patient’s right to choose or refuse treatment), Justice (the fair distribution of scarce health resources).
Inevitably, conflicts arise between these and other general principles, religious and cultural concerns. These values can only offer board guidance for understanding conflicts, not answers on how to handle particular situations.
House of Colour
Speaker: Lisa Whiteside
Lisa talked about her work as a Colour Analyst and Personal Style Consultant with the country’s leading Image Consultants, House of Colour. It all started 28 years ago when she saw how a friend, almost overnight, dramatically enhanced her appearance. Until then, Lisa, like so many of us, had a wardrobe full of clothes and nothing to wear.
Essentially, all of us are born naturally suited to a range of colours within one of the 4 seasons; the range of colours may change every decade or so, but never the season – once a winter, always a winter. Clients go through a colour analysis, which can be followed by a shape and style analysis as well. All of which results in a new image,which will make the right impression, and more importantly create a new inner self-confidence. Inevitably clients will also save time and money, and as an added bonus, will be able to pack everything needed for a fortnight’s holiday in one small suitcase.
A Soroptimist Journey
Speaker: Pam Lee
Pam joined SI in 1974, and 11 years later began her Soroptimist ‘career’ almost by chance (as so often happens) when she offered hospitality to a visiting American Soroptimist lawyer from Sacramento. By the time she had attended the International Conference in Melbourne in 1987, she was hooked.
Pam spoke about 3 journeys in particular, to Cameroon, India and the Caribbean Islands. The charter ceremony in Cameroon was very moving, as is the start of any new club. Her Soroptimist journey seemed to involve a lot of visits to prisons, and at Limbe, she was presented with an intricate model of a cockerel, made by the inmates from different types of woods available in Cameroon. In 1998 she went to India for charter ceremonies in Agra and Madras, but also visited Bombay, Poona, Calcutta and Burdwan. The Madras Club has gone from strength to strength and she still cherishes the hand-painted Ganesh presented to so many years ago. She briefly mentioned her visit to the Caribbean where Soroptimists are highly thought of.
Pam brought along a selection of gifts from her travels, including an impressive collection of badges both from her visits and conferences.
Speaker: Teresa Mangonon
After 27 years in the Philippines, where she registered as a nurse, TM went to Ireland. Her work in care of the elderly began here. She has also worked in care of the disabled at a Leonard Cheshire Home in South Oxfordshire. Care of the elderly differs from that of the disabled principally in the dramatic reduction of funding coupled with equally high care expectations.
She started at the Albany Care Home on 20 December 2011. The home had been under an embargo for 18 months and her role was to turn it around. The first of the radical changes she introduced was to celebrate Christmas for staff and residents alike. She proceeded to update necessary equipment, set up a Residents’ Committee and to encourage staff to think of the residents as their employers. Residents were involved in the recruitment of new staff. And staff training included ‘stepping into the shoes’ of residents.
She spoke of the sad realities of growing old and her focus is to improve the residents’ quality of life.
Speaker: Susaan Norwood
Susan Norwood spoke with vision and passion about her groundbreaking arts-based,accredited, educational resource, Project Volume, which was founded in concept in 2007 and became a charity in 2009. Dance has a remarkable ability to unlock learning potential, and the project is committed to raising the potential, profile, voice and visibility of those with learning disabilities.
Susan studied at Dartington College of Art, specialising in Choreography, and subsequently spent 12 years exploring the use of visual art, film and theatre in the teaching of dancers with disabilities. She has worked with the most respected dance companies, choreographers and artists; and more recently, with researchers at Oxford University.
She recently secured funding to put on a performance, exploring an exchange between a visual artist (Thomas Houseago) and dancers, at the Museum of Modern Art in Oxford. She is currently working with a special needs school in Blackbird Leys.
Hats for all Occasions
Speaker: Pam Goddard and Erica Smith
In 2005 Erica and Pam took on Felicity Hat Hire in Leamington Spa as a franchise, but two years ago set up Hats & Co., and modernised and developed the range of their products to include fascinators and other accessories. They aim for originality and exclusivity, and buy from established and award winning designers such as Vivien Sheriff and Richard Design. They gave a brief history of hats which started out as protection against the elements, with the earliest representations from ancient Thebes, Greece and Rome. In was in the 17th century that women’s headgear developed in its own right; Milan and regions in north Italy led the market at the time, hence the term ‘milliner’. Interest in hats began to decline in the 1950s and in the 1960s there was much more emphasis on hairstyling. But there was a revival of interest from the 1980s, not least due to the influence of the Princess of Wales.
Erica and Pam clearly adore hats. The presentation proved to be thoroughly entertaining, occasionally hilarious, and much appreciated by all.
Women, Peace and Security
Speaker: Nicola Blackwood MP
After a humorous introduction, Nicola Blackwood, the first female Oxfordshire MP, gave a lively and entertaining description of her work as an MP and explained her long-standing interest in issues of Domestic Abuse and Human Rights. She pointed out that, as an MP, she had already responded to 13,000 letters and that the buck really stops with her, as no one else can decide for her constituency. Remarkably for such a young and new MP, she was appointed to the Home Affairs Select Committee after only two months in which role she has to be non partisan. Inevitably, she has to prioritise her work but she tries to operate on the principle of “never let the urgents crowd out the importants.”
She was remarkably well informed in addressing issues of violence against women and children, both here and abroad. Domestically, there are around 14,500 cases of abuse against women and children a year to address which the Government is developing an action plan. Dealing with conflict zones, where it is used as a weapon of war, it is easier to initiate action against assault on women than it is to initiate their involvement. Only 8% of peace negotiators are women; women make up 70% of the world’s poor and 80% of the world’s illiterate.
Female participation is now hanging in the balance. UN Women has been launched to help counteract this but “no one can run fast on one foot – you can’t make progress without women.” On a more positive note, she gave many examples from around the world of
successes where women had been involved.
The Incredible Honey Bee
Speaker: Steve Molton
Steve Molton from Brightwell Bees, whose hobby became his occupation, gave a fascinating talk about the Honey Bee. These bees don’t hibernate but manage to maintain a temperature of 35 degrees within the hive all winter where they huddle together for warmth and change positions, so that those on the outside can get warm too. Even in February they go out to pollinate.
Their system of honey production is highly scientific from the construction of the cells in the comb where every angle is precisely measured, to the production of specific temperatures for precise activities. If they attack, it is never random and their means of communication gives precise instructions for the location of pollen.
Approximately one third of all fruit and vegetables in the UK are pollinated by bees and they have a commercial value of about £2m for hire as pollinators. There is no evidence that UK hives are affected by Colony Collapse Disorder and, even though there are problems with Varroa mites, UK hive losses have returned to normal.
At the end of his talk, members had the opportunity to purchase honey and beeswax products.
Update on Cementing Futures
Speaker: Debbie Rogers from Bournemouth SI
An outline of the origin of the project was given for new members and then an update of the amount of funding raised (c£20k) and issues to be faced.
Many things have changed since the project began – political, social, climatological, legal – which could require a rethink of the original plans and the most effective ways to use the funding for the education of Bangladeshi children. Some of these include:
– Would it be cheaper to rent than to build?
– Would slum clearance affect the usefulness of the building?
– Would it be better to help children now rather than several years down the line?
They are also looking at new ways of raising funds; considering offers of free land; working alongside UNICEF for the training of teachers.
An invitation was issued to SIOD members to visit Bangladesh in Nov. 2012 with theBournemouth club. The visit would include a trip to Chittagong.
What makes a great place to live and work?
Speaker – Claire Chidley
It would be impossible to summarise the exhilarating journey on which the speaker took members as she performed her whistle stop tour through about 74 slides from all over the world.
A Soroptimist herself, she has had a dynamic career in local government, economic development and city planning. She now works internationally as a consultant encouraging managers and developers to think more widely and creatively about city development.
Some points from her talk to stimulate thought:
– What makes a great town or city in one place wouldn’t necessarily be successful in another. Each place needs to feature its own strengths.
– It’s essential to think creatively. Not just in terms of the Arts but also in terms of education, social development and political creativity.
– A creative society finds imaginative solutions to problems and empowers. It crosses boundaries and thinks of the bigger picture.
– People need to be ready for change and to predict the future. They need to think differently (360 degree thinking) and to change their mindset.
– Cities that are culturally diverse are more successful.
Friendship Lunch for Steppin Stones
Held in the beautiful Long Gallery of Abingdon Abbey. Our members organised a delicious three course buffet and raffle for our Soroptimists, members of Steppin Stones and friends. All profits went to Steppin Stones.
Much festive fun had by all! Food, mulled wine, games and singing…. Thanks to Chris for the beautiful real holly and ivy decorations.
Held in the beautiful Unicorn Theatre of Abingdon. A total of £2000 was raised and shared equally between the Fabric Fund of St. Nicolas Church Abingdon and our Presidents Project “Cementing Futures”.
A Nutritional Strategy to Treat Bipolar Disorder
Speaker Anna Scarna – a Research Psychologist at Oxford University Warneford Hospital and Senior Lecturer in psychology at Oxford Brookes.
After explaining the nature of bipolar disorder, Anna Scarna described the side effects of an experimental mixture of amino acids on those who took it. Her research involved trying to block the excessive amounts of dopamine in manic patients by nutritional means, without replicating any side effects associated with conventional medication. The outcome has been the production of a yoghurt-type drink which has proved successful throughout rigorous trials. Although not as potent as dopamine-blocking medication, this product allows the patient to have control as they can take the compound when they recognise the need.
Malaysian Cookery Demonstration
Speaker Yolanda Tapping
Yolanda started by talking a little about Malaysia, especially about how diverse the population is. She is Chinese Malaysian, so her food is influenced by this. She started by cooking a chicken curry, followed by a vegetarian noodle dish. It was great fun with her portable, electric woks and we learnt how to count to 10 in Malay. There were lots of useful tips about how to make the perfect stir fry. Everything smelt delicious and fortunately we got to eat it all. While we ate and drank jasmine tea, we browsed her stall of Malaysian crafts.
Yolanda does cookery demonstrations for adult learning, but also does catering.
A Child in War Time Poland
Speaker Renata Calverley
Renata told us her spell binding story of growing up as a Polish Jew during WWII.
She was only a toddler when war broke out and gave a heart breaking account of what happened through the eyes of a child who didn’t really understand what was happening. She remembers a very happy childhood with a warm supportive family and eating strawberries greedily (there was a reoccurring obsession with food). The first tragedy struck when, one day, her father (a doctor) did not come home. Shortly afterwards Renata with her mother and grandmother were moved to a ghetto.
Her mother and grandmother worked shifts to make sure she was never left alone. Renata remembers being selfish and crying about the lack of food and facilities. One day she had been particularly bad tempered after her grandmother had washed her in cold water (which had also been used to clean potatoes) and was crying when her mother came home from the factory. Her mother told Renata that she had a treat for her and offered her a bit of sausage she had saved. An argument broke out with Renata’s grandmother, as she felt Renata had been fed and her daughter also needed to keep her strength up. Renata’s grandmother then went to work the night shift. Renata’s mother winked at her and gave her the sausage, which Renata scoffed in one bite.
Renata’s grandmother did not come home that morning. Renata’s mother did not come home that evening.
Various other adventures unfolded. Renata was smuggled out of the ghetto by hiding in the skirts of her former (Catholic) nanny and spent the rest of the war passing from place to place, hiding from the Germans. There were many people who were selfless and brave to hide her, but equally those who preyed on the desperation of her remaining family.
Eventually, when the war was over, she was sent as a refugee to England. As she stepped off the boat to be exmained by the doctors, she was picked up and grabbed into an embrace. We got a proper Hollywood ending to her story – her father was the doctor sent to check the new refugees.
Renata told her story without self pity or drama. All agreed Renata should try to publish her story or record it for future generations.
Mr Aziz kindly let us use his restaurant for a fund raising event for Cementing Futures. 90 people attended and enjoyed fantastic food, traditional dancing and a raffle. Over £1000 was raised for Cementing Futures.
Instead of having an outside speaker this month, Cecily Lau, Helena Ayyub and Kieke Bededictus gave brief accounts of their respective and very different careers. All were extremely interesting to listen to and exemplified the high level at which they operate; the very busy lives that most Soroptimists lead and the major contribution that they make to society.
At the end, President Margaret gave a brief account of some new research into ME in which she is involved.
On Being Grandma
Speaker Penny Faust
Penny Faust was introduced as a Jewish mother of four, a grandmother, a child psychologist, a broadcaster on BBC and Radio Oxford, speaker on ‘Thought for the Day’ and involved in interfaith dialogue – amongst other things.
“Never have children, only grandchildren”. – Gore Vidal
She began by saying that people who had children in the 60s have opened up a lot of things and have changed the nature of ‘grandparenting’. The flavour of the relationship has changed because our grandparents were ‘old’ and had different expectations of their retirement years.
She pointed out that it isn’t essential to have one’s own grandchildren to be a ‘grandparent’. Any adult can establish an important cross-generational relationship, perhaps from babysitting or through Home Start, which builds up over the years and provides ‘a constant’ in the child’s life. The joy of being a grandparent is that one can say when one has had enough, unless one is in the unfortunate position of having full time care of the child/children.
Four out of five teenagers in a survey said that grandparents were the most important people in their lives outside their families. Teenagers talk a different language but Penny Foust stressed that it didn’t hurt any of us to learn another language to keep the lines of communication open.
She pointed out that the role of grandparents is not an easy one and can lead to many conflicts or resentments: sons/daughters can feel rejected when more interest is shown in their offspring; they can feel jealous of the relationship between grandparent and child and they can resent the way grandparents deal with their child if it differs from their own ways of doing things. Families have to learn not to be frightened of grandparents or resentful, and grandparents not to compromise their own integrity over differences in values and attitudes. In her view, the happiest grandparents are those who choose to look after their grandchildren rather than have to.
Club members were then invited to share their experiences of grandparenting or of their own grandparents.
Has The Women’s Movement Died?
Speaker Dr Louise Livesey
Dr Livesey gave a lively and challenging talk about the current stage of Feminism and The Women’s Movement and then gave an introduction to current courses at Ruskin College. Dr Livesey and her team are also willing to run day or half-day courses, if requested.
She reminded members that there had never been a single women’s group or set of ideas to which one could subscribe but that there had always been women working on behalf of other women.
The first newspaper to declare that feminism was dead was in 1922 but there is still a great deal of coverage of feminist subjects in the media: writing, thinking, broadcasting, the internet, podcasts, video bloggs, networks etc. There is also a lot of ‘backlash’ material. Generally, media reports take one of two positions: that there is no such thing as The Women’s Movement or that it is to blame for everything, including environmental disasters.
According to Dr Livesey, the original four aims of Feminism have not yet been achieved, even though it is 40 years since the first seminal women’s liberation conference at Ruskin. These conferences have been held every ten years since and Club members were invited to attend this year. See www.wlm40conference.org.uk for further information.
Two definitions of feminism: ” I know I’m a feminist when someone recognises that I’ve done something that differentiates me from a doormat.” (Rebecca West); “Women are valuable people.” ( Louise Livesey)
International Christmas Party
The theme for our Christmas was “international” to reflect the diversity of our members and our President’s charity, Cementing Futures – raising money to build an education and health centre for the children in the slums of Dhaka. Members brought along food (and guests from as far away as Venezuela) to express the international theme. Our guest speaker, Mr Aziz of Aziz Restaurant on Cowley Road, kindly donated a huge quantity of Bangladeshi food. He gave a powerful speech about the importance of the work Cementing Futures is doing.
Apart from the wonderful food, there was a raffle and members brought along photos of themselves in a different country. There was a prize for the person who could name the most countries correctly. We also used the event to advertise our bra collecting scheme…
Training midwives in Chad
Euranis Neale gave a fascinating talk about a small charity, which is training midwives in two hospitals in Chad. Accompanied by graphic photographs of the conditions they have to work in.
Her description and slides of the (lack of) hygiene facilities in the hospital made it seem miraculous that any one ever survived the experience of childbirth at all, yet she described those who went into hospital as the lucky ones. Lack of hygiene wasn’t the only problem encountered: midwives were lacking in essential basic knowledge, undisciplined and excitable. Training resources had been made available from charitable sources but neither the midwives nor doctors knew how to use them.
Women travelled miles to get to the hospital and many camped rough with their children in the hospital grounds. Facilities for them inside were primitive and gave no room for privacy, comfort or even personal respect. Even though female, the midwives seemed not to have any empathy with the women they were treating.
Euranis gave a most memorable slide presentation in such a way that we could have listened for much longer. Even when dealing with statistics she presented them in an easily assimilated way so that the impact of them on those listening could not fail to affect.
The tasks facing Euranis and her colleagues seemed impossible, yet they cheerfully persevered and, working with the most hopeful of the trainees, began to make some headway with the hope that progress would continue after they returned to the UK.