‘Anyway, Listening Isn’t Enough’
That was the theme of this year’s AAFDA (Advocacy After Fatal Domestic Abuse) Conference, held in Swindon this week, and hosted by Frank Mullane, CEO of AAFDA. The charity AAFDA provides specialised support for families and friends after the homicide, suicide or unexplained death of their family member or friend, following domestic abuse.
Over two days, we heard heartrending stories from families such as Natasha and Rupert, who had everyone in the room in tears. The number of #KilledWomen is staggering — figures still show that a woman is killed by a man every 3 days in the UK! Killed Women, a campaign group and network of bereaved families, are fighting to change this.
Well done to Frank and all the AAFDA team for all your dedicated work; it is horrifying that neither the current Government nor its predecessors have listened and acted on male violence against women. We earnestly hope this Government will respond to the pressure from women like Jess Phillips, MP for Birmingham Yardley and Shadow Minister for Domestic Violence and Safeguarding, who was a conference speaker, and from Nicole Jacobs, Domestic Abuse Commissioner for England and Wales, who chaired the conference.
This poignant reminder really brought home the number of women killed: Domestic, an installation by artist Wilma Woolf, which was displayed at the AAFDA conference by Rupert Waterhouse.
Wilma created 8 plates on which she lists the names of all women killed by men in the last 8 years — one plate per year — and dreadfully, the relationship those men had to their victims, even including sons. It was first shown in 2021, to mark the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.
See the image below for a guide to the icons. You can find out more about this work, and see some of the other plates, at Wilma Woolf’s website.